Imposter syndrome is the persistent, internal fear that you're a fraud, that you're not as competent as others perceive you to be, and that you'll be exposed as a phony at any moment. It's a feeling that is all too common among high-achievers, and it's a feeling that I know all too well. But what if I told you that imposter syndrome is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of success? This is the imposter syndrome paradox.
The Mark of a True Expert
The paradox lies in the fact that the more you learn, the more you realize how much you don't know. This is the opposite of the Dunning-Kruger effect, where people with low ability overestimate their competence. True experts are acutely aware of the vastness of their field and the limits of their own knowledge. They are constantly pushing the boundaries of their understanding, and it's this very act of pushing that creates the feeling of being an imposter.
The Company You Keep
Imposter syndrome is also a sign that you're in the right room. If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. You should be surrounding yourself with people who are smarter than you, who challenge you, and who push you to be better. And when you're in that room, it's only natural to feel a little bit like an imposter.
"I have written 11 books, but each time I think, 'uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.'" - Maya Angelou
How to Tame the Imposter
The goal is not to eliminate imposter syndrome, but to learn how to manage it. Here are a few strategies that have helped me:
- Keep a "Brag File": Keep a running list of your accomplishments, your successes, and the positive feedback you've received. When you're feeling like a fraud, review your brag file to remind yourself of how far you've come.
- Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome: Instead of worrying about whether you're "good enough," focus on the process of getting better. Celebrate the small wins, the lessons learned, and the progress you're making.
- Talk About It: You are not alone. The vast majority of successful people have experienced imposter syndrome at some point in their careers. Talk about it with a trusted friend, a mentor, or a therapist. You'll be surprised at how many people can relate.
Imposter syndrome is not a curse; it's a sign that you're growing, that you're learning, and that you're pushing yourself to be better. So, the next time you feel like a fraud, don't let it paralyze you. Let it be a reminder that you're on the right track.